It’s OK to disagree(It’s not ok to push your narrative)

So in this world of #cancelculture we are being told it’s all or nothing according to some influencers and stars. They are getting cancelled left and right and blaming cancel culture and not having the freedom of speech or being censored.

            Honestly IDGAD!

Seriously and don’t take offense or do but some things are better left unsaid. I received an email last week from an influencer and blogger but the whole email just left a bad taste in my mouth. The email was about how she was so offended by #cancelculture and her beliefs should never be a reason to unfollow or feed into cancel culture unless God guided her to do so. She was so sadden because she never hide who she was and felt the people calling for cancel culture were the same ones preaching unity. And I’m just over here like (blinking eye emoji) I don’t know what you did or said but sis I really don’t care.

If you are being 100% true to yourself and authentic losing followers or whatever should not bother you because THOSE ARE NOT YOUR PEOPLE! They aren’t your target audience and they probably don’t read half you witty captions or that extremely personal deep post you posted they just liked your pretty picture and kept scrolling.(I was one of those people)

But if you post something that resonates with people weather good or bad be prepared for the blowback no matter which way it swings. I remember a Facebook (friend) posting this long long post about how her husband works harder than most black people she knows and she works hard for everything she has and we(black people) need to stop wanting things to be handed to us. I don’t know about you guys but I’ve worked pretty damn hard; ya girl is employed, a student, a blogger, a mom, and current school teacher to my three year old ok! Anyway the comments were not in her favor and I removed her after saying my peace but a few months later you know when more and more people started getting fired from their jobs for their racist, homophobic, prejudice comments she messaged me and apologized. It was half assed and felt like an attempt to save face but all I thought was talk your shit I’m not too hurt to report you to our employer honey.(shrugs)

Trust me I appreciate it more if you show me who you are than I have to find out later on. I say all that to say we don’t always have to agree but don’t just push you narrative on someone else and get upset when they don’t agree. I know a few people deleted me for my comments on their post instead of engaging in open conversations and that’s ok too. But seriously…


My last point is to clarify that a lot of these situations and instances calling for cancellation I can say for some of us in the BIPOC community we didn’t send for you, SOCIETY did. The fact that the world is so messed up now anything can be misconstrued or misunderstood but the string is so tight nothing is allowed to pass and a lot is unacceptable. Renaming a street doesn’t fix the problem just masks it. I know Corona is still a thing but is this one mask we can maybe take off?




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My name is Seketa, I have a daughter, son and a husband; working a full time job and attending school. This blog is about life as a young mom do's and don'ts and daily struggles hope you enjoy it :)

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