I finally bought a step stool.
It’s been a little over four months since the kids and I moved into our own place and today my step stool finally arrived. For context, I’m only 5’4 so trust me when I say it has been needed. But when you are starting over there are so many things you don’t think about that you have to change and adjust to.

For me, one of those things was a step stool. unlike so many others when my spouse and I separated, I was able to take all the kid’s furniture and essentials so at least they were set. For myself aside from my dresser and mirror, I needed it all.

Essential was a bed and nightside table. Moving was already such a big undertaking financially I wanted something easy that wouldn't break my already broken piggy bank so I went to our favorite spot Amazon and found a bedframe and mattress I could live with. if you've never tried a Zinus mattress honestly, you're missing out and that's my honest opinion but the price just can't be beaten.
I put a few collections together of home essentials I’ve purchased or been gifted by my friends in the last few months you can check them out here as well if you are in need and on a strict budget.
The biggest purchase I made came a few weeks after the move in the form of a nice three-seater couch perfect for our space from Rooms-To-Go. If you want to see how it transformed our space check out this reel. I went back and forth on the matter and searched online but this one just felt right. My biggest priority was to make my kids feel at home and safe and funny enough a couch did just that. Am I still paying for it? Well that’s another story but I made sure it was something I could afford with all the other changes that came with the move and everything else has fallen into place.

So yes I just got our step stool but we’ve been making this house a home the entire time. If you’re in the process of taking that next step, starting over or just starting my advice to you is to take your time. Find what is most important to you and make it happen. Grab the essentials, it may not be the best but it’s enough to get you by and that’s all that matters safety and comfort.
If you’re new here and wondering how we got to this point check out my podcast Married Single Mom available on Spotify, apple podcast, and amazon music.
And never think that you are alone, in a world full of people, someone out there can relate to.


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